Patty Paul Tells All 
We all know how hard life can be. Well I'm here to help with all those problems that you just can't seem to solve on your own. Maybe we can solve life's little problems one at a time. Just remember that my advice is here just for fun. So drop me a line and come back to see what fabulous advice I have for you....I'm Saying, but I'm not.
Dear PattyPaul: When did the Gay 90's become the 90's I mean I was there the 1st time in years on Sunday Pride -The Gay 90's hardly looked GAY. $10.00 cover charge for What.I guess I'll just sick to the Saloon THE ONLY GAY MENS CLUB LEFT :O( I remember the late 80's and the 90's yes over the years I bought and paid for the GAY 90's when I thing about all the money a spent there.GIRL STRIPPED ON THE MAIN BAR :O(
Dear Friend: I think you have to ask yourself if this person is someone you want to have a relationship with. If she put you out because she can not deal with the Cancer, there is no way she is going to be able to support you emotionally as you deal with your Cancer. There is one thing I know for sure, and that is, it takes more than love to make a relationship work. Your going to need someone that truly cares about you. Sit her down and find out if it's the Cancer she can't deal with or is she just not interested in you and wishes to move on. Once you hear it from her, you can make that next step. My advice right now is....move on..find someone that is going to be there for you. She is the one missing out. And don't let the Cancer get the best of you....you fight back.
Dear PattyPaul: I've been in a five year relationship recently I developed cancer and she put me out. I can't let her go any advice on how I can get her back? I know she is seeing someone and lying about it but I still love her.
Dear Friend: I think you have to ask yourself if this person is someone you want to have a relationship with. If she put you out because she can not deal with the Cancer, there is no way she is going to be able to support you emotionally as you deal with your Cancer. There is one thing I know for sure, and that is, it takes more than love to make a relationship work. Your going to need someone that truly cares about you. Sit her down and find out if it's the Cancer she can't deal with or is she just not interested in you and wishes to move on. Once you hear it from her, you can make that next step. My advice right now is....move on..find someone that is going to be there for you. She is the one missing out. And don't let the Cancer get the best of you....you fight back.
Dear PattyPaul: I am in love with someone and she doesn't love me anymore. She has agreed to help me find another girl. Any available girls at this club or just guys?
Dear Friend:I have a funny feeling you forgot the true meaning of Gay, and Gay Pride and what it is to be Gay. If the name of the bar was The Gay Men 90's, I could see some merit in your comment. The Gay 90's is what all Gay bars should be and are becoming. All inclusive. It was different in the late 80's and the 90's. But we as a GLBT community have moved on. No longer are we forced to go to just Gay Bars. We are part of the mainstream. Don't ask Don't tell is on it's way out, we are getting marriage rights, etc. we are making social changes in leaps and bounds....we are moving on. And the bars are starting to reflect that. Men only bars were fun in the day. I remember well. We celebrate sexuality, not sex. With the many options to meet men online, it is no longer neccesary to go to the bars to meet men. I'd like to think that you, as a gay man, would have no problem sharing a space with lesbian, transgendered, bisexual, straight, and others. It's 2010. And I'm sure you'll find that the crowd at all the gay bars are now more of a mixture. Wishing for things to be the way they were, just makes you miss out on the things that are here and now. So I might suggest you try going to a leather bar for that male only atmosphere. But you better hurry....even that is changing.
Dear PattyPaul: .Hi..MY name is Nic and i recentlly came out to my friends like a few months ago but i was dating guys for years but i have never had the courage to date in real life, I have never had sex or kissed or hugged (its sad i think) and im 18. I dont know what i should do. Do you have any advice?
Dear Nic: Just coming out is one major step. It takes a lot of courage. I'm proud of you. The fact that you've never kissed, hugged or had sex with a guy is not sad at all. It means you haven't found the right guy to explore your sexuality with. Weather your just experimenting or looking for love, experience is the key. Your only 18, you have plenty of time to figure out just what you want in a guy, and to find someone that is willing to take the time to help you grow emotionally and sexually. That's how we all learn. Weather we come out at an early age or later in life. Just promise to be careful. If your going to meet guys online, you have to take every precaution. Know who your chatting with. People lie. If you decided to meet someone, do it in a public place first. Let a friend know where your going if you decided to meet a potential date. At 18 your choices of places to meet other guys is a bit limited, so you need to find out where younger gay men hang out besides the 18+ nights at bars. Parties, shows, coffee shops, etc. Chances are you'll meet a guy that has as little experience as you. Maybe date someone a bit older that is experienced and you'll learn a thing or two. And the most important thing.....always play safe....always....
